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Time for YOU

Moms tend to have this funny belief. It goes something like this: “If I do something just for myself, I’m selfish. If I do it often, I’m really selfish and I also need to offset that time by spending an equal amount of time (or more) feeling guilty about it.”

I’m not sure how that rubbish creeps in but it seems to be an almost universal issue that I just don’t get. Don’t get me wrong, my not getting it does not exempt me from feeling the guilt. I still feel it and I know it’s ridiculous.

I’ll give you an example. One of my favorite things is to go for a walk. When I walk, I work through the clutter in my head, I get a bit of exercise, I take in some Vitamin D if the sun is out and I receive a much-needed boost of endorphins. As a result, I’m happier, more patient and a lot more fun to be around.

With all those benefits, it’s a given that I walk at least a few times a week, right? HA! I can actually talk myself out of a walk in countless ways. In fact, one recent morning, I almost didn’t go because it meant not seeing my kids off to school and it meant putting the burden on my husband to drive our daughter to the bus stop–something he does a couple of times a week anyway. And then I came to my senses and thought, “Well, so what? The kids can handle it. My husband can handle it. No big deal!” What it made me realize is that I’m usually the only one attempting to derail my plans. Sound familiar?

What do you do for “me time” and how do you make sure it actually happens? We’d love to hear!

3 thoughts on “Time for YOU

  1. Dianne / Reply September 29, 2014 at 9:19 pm

    I create time for pottery by enrolling in a class and then figure out how to get there each week. And if I have to skip a class (because of family/life) I make up the time on my own. Erin’s coaching helped me understand how important this is (to me) and that it’s A-OK to put myself first (part of the time). Walking is good too!

    • Lara Galloway / Reply September 30, 2014 at 5:58 am

      So smart! I think one of our book contributors said she takes the same approach to self-care by booking her next hair and mani/pedi appointments as she is leaving the salon. Then when she receives the reminder calls the day before, it’s too late to cancel, so she just has to go!

  2. Erin Baebler / Reply September 29, 2014 at 11:40 pm

    Aw, shucks, Dianne. Thanks. You are a quick study!

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