Moms tend to have this funny belief. It goes something like this: “If I do something just for myself, I’m selfish. If I do it often, I’m really selfish and I also need to offset that time by spending an equal amount of time (or more) feeling guilty about it.”
I’m not sure how that rubbish creeps in but it seems to be an almost universal issue that I just don’t get. Don’t get me wrong, my not getting it does not exempt me from feeling the guilt. I still feel it and I know it’s ridiculous.
I’ll give you an example. One of my favorite things is to go for a walk. When I walk, I work through the clutter in my head, I get a bit of exercise, I take in some Vitamin D if the sun is out and I receive a much-needed boost of endorphins. As a result, I’m happier, more patient and a lot more fun to be around.
With all those benefits, it’s a given that I walk at least a few times a week, right? HA! I can actually talk myself out of a walk in countless ways. In fact, one recent morning, I almost didn’t go because it meant not seeing my kids off to school and it meant putting the burden on my husband to drive our daughter to the bus stop–something he does a couple of times a week anyway. And then I came to my senses and thought, “Well, so what? The kids can handle it. My husband can handle it. No big deal!” What it made me realize is that I’m usually the only one attempting to derail my plans. Sound familiar?
What do you do for “me time” and how do you make sure it actually happens? We’d love to hear!